How to communicate with the former?
Our life, sadly, consists of meetings and partings. Human feelings are changeable and unpredictable, and it is impossible to predict in advance how your relationship with your loved one will change over time.
When events happen in life that lead to parting with a loved one, or a loved one, a soul is overwhelmed by a wave of emotions, often uncontrollable, and the main question that sounds in everyone’s head is how to communicate with the former and whether to communicate at all.
Advice for each case is impossible to give, how many people, so many relationships. But there are general recommendations that should help everyone.
Evaluation without emotion
First of all, the question of, for example, how to communicate with an ex-boyfriend, should be decided not in a storm of emotions, but calmly and with the use of reason, when stress passes. Emotions can not rage forever, so you need to give yourself a time out, leave the routine and calm down without making any rash decisions.
When the head is able to think soberly, evaluate your relationship with your former loved one, understand what was the real reason for parting, and whether you need to continue any relationship at all. By the way, these recommendations are quite justified and when it comes to how to communicate with the former girlfriend.
If you have absolutely nothing in common, then the continuation of the relationship does not make sense. But usually in our life, couples, ceasing love relationships, are forced to live side by side, in general society, to communicate for work or in other spheres of life.
In this case, sit down and think carefully about which model of new relations with your ex you will want to choose.
Model of new relationships
There are several options here - just stay friends, keep dating for sex, try to start over again after a while.
The first option is the most common and the most honest, although in many cases there is self-deception, when, speaking of friendship, former loved ones imply something completely different. Most often, it refers to the absence of hostility, the absence of claims to each other. True friendship implies the continuation of a fairly close relationship, when you can share your joys and troubles with the person, help him and get help. But at the same time no sex! That is, there will have to believe in inter-sex friendship. If, over time, sexual desire still arises, then the second or third variant of the relationship will be chosen.
Correct communication after a break
In any case, in the first period after the break in relations, you need to take a firm decision to base the relationship not a violent and emotional clarification of who is right and who is to blame, but correct polite communication based on logic and reason. Such a communication format will establish a certain distance and make it easier to overcome the gap, both for you and for the people around you - friends, relatives, children.
We must always remember that the past is always a step on the way to the future, but it still remains the past. Keep in mind that any break in a relationship has a serious cause, and a broken relationship is rarely restored, if the reason that caused the break does not disappear.
So maybe, let the past remain past and it is worth thinking about how to continue life, having gained invaluable experience?
Human feelings are changeable and unpredictable, and it is impossible to predict in advance how your relationship with your loved one will change over time.